Some years ago, I noticed that many, many couples in my practice were experiencing major relationship breakdowns because their levels of interest in sex were worlds apart. One spouse was hot while the other was not. Certainly, this sort of disparity happens from time to time even in the best of relationships, but there was nothing temporary about the sexual divide wreaking havoc in these marriages. There were long-standing issues of rejection and misunderstanding that spilled over into every aspect of the couples’ lives together. I called these relationships, sex-starved marriages.

Sex-starved marriages are so prevalent that I decided to write a book on the subject and called it, that’s right, you guessed it, The Sex-Starved Marriage. I wrote about the problems that occur in marriage when one spouse is vastly more interested in sex than the other and more, importantly, what they could do to fix things.