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Finding Neutral Ground In Your Marriage
How approaching your arguments from a neutral perspective will help maintain the health and stability of your marriage for years to come.
"When in doubt who will win, be neutral." ~Swiss Proverb
One of my husband’s most reliable responses to my often high level of emotionality is, "Can you just be neutral?"
He is a psychiatrist, so he has a lot more practice at finding a neutral objective view. Yet, even before we each chose our respective professions, he would often find his way back to center with more ease than I. Over the years, as I have learned to lean towards this middle space of witnessing reality without the storm of emotions that literally cloud my view, I have witnessed how my marriage has grown up to not only withstand conflicts, but has given each of us the room to really listen to opposing points of view.
One of my husband’s most reliable responses to my often high level of emotionality is, "Can you just be neutral?"
He is a psychiatrist, so he has a lot more practice at finding a neutral objective view. Yet, even before we each chose our respective professions, he would often find his way back to center with more ease than I. Over the years, as I have learned to lean towards this middle space of witnessing reality without the storm of emotions that literally cloud my view, I have witnessed how my marriage has grown up to not only withstand conflicts, but has given each of us the room to really listen to opposing points of view.
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