There are periods of time in all our lives when we feel despondent, lethargic, depressed and hopeless. These feeling states can last from a few minutes to many years. The length of time feeling down depends on what loss, trauma or hurt you maybe suffering from. Examples of personal traumas are: One of your parents may have died when you were a child. Your marriage may be suffering from an extramarital affair. You may have been a victim of a violent crime or you may be recovering from substance abuse.