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Just My Luck! It's All About Perspective
We definitely notice when things aren't going our way. After all... it's just our luck. However, what if we flipped that sentiment on its head?


Mohamed Hassan
When it rains, it pours. It's just a matter of how you see what's coming at you.


Because I guarantee, if you’re still walking on this planet, that most things go your way.”
Someone cuts you off in traffic, you get stuck behind the person with 30 items in the 10 items or less line, your hair dryer fails in the middle of your blow-dry, the cat throws up on your favorite shirt, and every time you say to yourself, gritting your teeth through it all, "Yup, just my luck."

You say the same thing when your flight is delayed, or your luggage lost, or your spouse forgets you exist or doesn't recognize all the work you've been doing around the house and hours you've been putting in at the office—the list goes on.

You never say, "Just my luck" when the traffic flows freely and easily, the cashier opens a new line up just for you, your blow-dry is impeccable, and your cat uses the litter box for its intended use. Yet, you could. After all, why does "Just my luck" have to be said only of negative events? Why not turn it on its head and make it your happy go-to for when things do go your way?

Because I guarantee, if you’re still walking on this planet, that most things go your way. The sun rises and sets right on cue, you wake up and brew a cup of coffee/tea (likely grown on the other side of the planet) to face the day. You may not have your ideal job, but you have work or you can figure out a way to get some. You may be having a rough patch with your mate or you might be struggling with the kids, but somewhere in your life there is someone (or some pet) that loves you—this very second! You do have "luck," which in this regard, is simply a short form for "things to be grateful for."

Why not go for it? Why not start noticing all the "lucky" things that happen to you every single day, and say "Just my luck" with a smile? You just might get even—luckier.

Noelle C. Nelson, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, consultant, popular speaker in the U.S. and abroad, and author of over a dozen best-selling books. Dr. Nelson focuses on how we can all enjoy happy, fulfilling lives while accomplishing great things in love, at home and at work, as we appreciate ourselves, our world and all others. She is the author of "Happy Healthy…Dead: Why What You Think You Know About Aging Is Wrong and How To Get It Right" (MindLab Publishing). You Matter. You Count. You Are Important. For more visit www.noellenelson.com, facebook.com/MeetTheAmazings, #MeetTheAmazings, and @drnoellenelson.


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