entertains, educates & inspires marriages
Find Marriage Answers
kids
Tips to Help Raise a Citizen of the World4 tips to help encourage your child to be the author of their own lives and be an effective, happy, healthy, and members of society.
Depositphoto
Follow a few simple guidelines to help raise a citizen of the world.
“ They are testing your ability to stay rational and present. You are not there best friend…”
|
I hate to scare you parents, but this is the ultimate job of a lifetime. This is your chance to make an impact, a difference in the world, all while creating a unique and special bond for eternity.
A child is so much more than the sweet helpless one-year old you swaddle in your arms, with those gorgeous doe eyes that gaze up into yours for security, love and guidance. This is a beautiful soul, that’s watching and listening to the person he or she trusts the most, you!
You are his or her lifeline and first role model. I’m not suggesting you put on your crown and robe and start prancing around like the queen of England; this is not about control, this about bringing out the best in humanity.
I’m a mother of four, two from my very own body and two older stepchildren. The rules of engagement are different for both sets, but the underlying values are the same.
Your responsibility to your offspring is to nurture and guide them within the protection and support of your love, because the truth is, ‘"Children find in the eyes of their parents the mirror in which they define themselves. Fill them with nothing and they become nothing," says psychologist William Galser.
The following are what I like to call the "Own it, Feel it, Live it" guiding principles to prepare your child for a global society. With these principles, no matter what situation they encounter, they will have the strength and know how within to endure and succeed in a compassionate, mindful, manner.
Own It
First and perhaps most important you should own being a parent like a warrior, with confidence and self-respect! If you want to raise your child to own it they’ll need to learn to be an independent, creative thinker. Teach your child to own their place in the world by following your lead. Here's how.
1. Set safe boundaries. The word "safe" is the key here. Kids feel safer when you set boundaries. As your child tests you, they are really testing their place in the world. They are testing your ability to stay rational and present. You are not there best friend, you are the one safe place where love and truth rules, and trust is given until otherwise shattered.
2. Instill confidence. Trust your own intuition and choices, but most importantly your child’s abilities and choices. A person can only feel confident if they are given the chance to test their place in the world, to explore and try new challenges, so they can feel capable. And, yes, you are after all the punching bag, be patient! Engage your child in activities so they can gain strength and knowledge through real life, everyday experiences, whether it’s making a smoothie that ends up as an artistic wall covering or picking up the leaves after a storm. Be their cheerleader let them own it so they in turn can feel self-respect, capable and the power of accomplishment.
The alternative is your child will be left thinking, "Why bother, they don’t believe I can do anything!" Next they become a slacker, living off mum and dad for eternity… no thank you!
3. Nurture success and support individuality. Everyone comes out of the womb as a valuable member of society. Your role is to create an environment where your child feels their life has meaning and what they have to contribute has value. I’m not suggesting false praise here, but genuine validation for success. Be present, listen to what’s important to them, so they feel significant—and don’t judge prematurely. It’s their unique gifts the world needs next, not yours. Let go and encourage them to be curious to ask questions and own the outcome with pride and passion.
4. Encourage conversation and eye contact. Have lots of conversations. Remember the Galser quote recommending to "fill them up," it wasn’t referring to food! It’s only through the simple act of conversation that a child learns interpersonal skills. Ban the mobile devices from the table and teach them to have eye contact, to listen, to exchange ideas, and to respect their own and opinions of others. Ultimately, the art of conversation gives a child (and your future global citizen) assurance that they do have a voice and the freedom to express their own feelings, ideas and needs!
Diane Danvers Simmons is a passionate, visionary global citizen who offers solutions to inspire women to embrace their core values and live life by their own definition with wit & wisdom. Through inspired "Spirituality in Stilettos" programming, uplifting Made by "Survivors" jewelry, impactful documentaries, and speaking engagements, Diane creates experiences and brands to raise awareness, uplift souls, inspire action, empower and connect people from all walks of life on one universal journey for a brighter, more enlightened future. For more information visit her website: www.mothersanddaughtersunfiltered.com
A child is so much more than the sweet helpless one-year old you swaddle in your arms, with those gorgeous doe eyes that gaze up into yours for security, love and guidance. This is a beautiful soul, that’s watching and listening to the person he or she trusts the most, you!
You are his or her lifeline and first role model. I’m not suggesting you put on your crown and robe and start prancing around like the queen of England; this is not about control, this about bringing out the best in humanity.
I’m a mother of four, two from my very own body and two older stepchildren. The rules of engagement are different for both sets, but the underlying values are the same.
Your responsibility to your offspring is to nurture and guide them within the protection and support of your love, because the truth is, ‘"Children find in the eyes of their parents the mirror in which they define themselves. Fill them with nothing and they become nothing," says psychologist William Galser.
The following are what I like to call the "Own it, Feel it, Live it" guiding principles to prepare your child for a global society. With these principles, no matter what situation they encounter, they will have the strength and know how within to endure and succeed in a compassionate, mindful, manner.
“Everyone comes out of the womb as a valuable member of society. Your role is to create an environment where your child feels their life has meaning and what they have to contribute has value.”
Own It
First and perhaps most important you should own being a parent like a warrior, with confidence and self-respect! If you want to raise your child to own it they’ll need to learn to be an independent, creative thinker. Teach your child to own their place in the world by following your lead. Here's how.
1. Set safe boundaries. The word "safe" is the key here. Kids feel safer when you set boundaries. As your child tests you, they are really testing their place in the world. They are testing your ability to stay rational and present. You are not there best friend, you are the one safe place where love and truth rules, and trust is given until otherwise shattered.
2. Instill confidence. Trust your own intuition and choices, but most importantly your child’s abilities and choices. A person can only feel confident if they are given the chance to test their place in the world, to explore and try new challenges, so they can feel capable. And, yes, you are after all the punching bag, be patient! Engage your child in activities so they can gain strength and knowledge through real life, everyday experiences, whether it’s making a smoothie that ends up as an artistic wall covering or picking up the leaves after a storm. Be their cheerleader let them own it so they in turn can feel self-respect, capable and the power of accomplishment.
The alternative is your child will be left thinking, "Why bother, they don’t believe I can do anything!" Next they become a slacker, living off mum and dad for eternity… no thank you!
3. Nurture success and support individuality. Everyone comes out of the womb as a valuable member of society. Your role is to create an environment where your child feels their life has meaning and what they have to contribute has value. I’m not suggesting false praise here, but genuine validation for success. Be present, listen to what’s important to them, so they feel significant—and don’t judge prematurely. It’s their unique gifts the world needs next, not yours. Let go and encourage them to be curious to ask questions and own the outcome with pride and passion.
4. Encourage conversation and eye contact. Have lots of conversations. Remember the Galser quote recommending to "fill them up," it wasn’t referring to food! It’s only through the simple act of conversation that a child learns interpersonal skills. Ban the mobile devices from the table and teach them to have eye contact, to listen, to exchange ideas, and to respect their own and opinions of others. Ultimately, the art of conversation gives a child (and your future global citizen) assurance that they do have a voice and the freedom to express their own feelings, ideas and needs!
Diane Danvers Simmons is a passionate, visionary global citizen who offers solutions to inspire women to embrace their core values and live life by their own definition with wit & wisdom. Through inspired "Spirituality in Stilettos" programming, uplifting Made by "Survivors" jewelry, impactful documentaries, and speaking engagements, Diane creates experiences and brands to raise awareness, uplift souls, inspire action, empower and connect people from all walks of life on one universal journey for a brighter, more enlightened future. For more information visit her website: www.mothersanddaughtersunfiltered.com
Leave a Comment
|
|
|
|
threshold | life | money | sex | blog | married life social network | partners | directory | wine club | podcasts | newsletters | subscribe | advertise | contact us | press releases | archives | privacy policy
Copyright © 2023 Hitched Media, Inc. All rights reserved. | hitched - entertains, educates & inspires marriages |
