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Parenting: Discipline is the Highest Form of LoveWhen we discipline our children we show them that we care. Here are 8 traits that emerge when you’ve done it right.
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Kids who have been properly disciplined have been given love and a positive guiding path forward.
“ Disciplined children are able to put themselves in the shoes of someone else’s emotional experience, which allows them to develop understanding and genuine care.”
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Discipline is the key to raising functional happy children. What this means is that parents need to, first and foremost, be disciplined themselves. If a parent isn’t disciplined there is no chance of disciplining their children correctly. Discipline should come from natural consequences, or the law of cause and effect. It should not come from induced fear, humiliation, shame, yelling or any form of physical or emotional coercion. Children who have been disciplined correctly have been given loving and firm guidance and they show the following character traits, which last a lifetime.
8 Traits of Children Who Have Been Disciplined
1. Self-control: Emotional maturity is the ability to delay gratification. This means your parenting taught them to keep commitments, even when they were no longer new or exciting. Disciplined children can commit to doing what is right even when they don’t feel like it.
2. Empathy: Disciplined children are able to put themselves in the shoes of someone else’s emotional experience, which allows them to develop understanding and genuine care. This enables them to be able to help someone from a place of honesty rather than helping someone to meet their own agenda.
3. Motivated to feel good: Disciplined children have been parented to know they are "good," and because of this they are driven through their own behaviors to maintain this state of internal well-being. Feeling good is their natural state, which they will always strive to regain when their lives bring uncertainty.
4. Responsible: They have been raised to be motivated from within to help around the house, school and in the world at large because they see the value in contributing to the whole rather than just thinking about their own needs.
5. Self-love: Children who are disciplined have an internal sense of their worth. Their confidence is derived from within and not just from performance or outside validation. They have been loved deeply which makes them see themselves as lovable.
6. Responsible: Disciplined children own up to their mistakes and are more likely to make good choices because they desire to feel good. Accountability is not seen as shameful, but rather as an opportunity to practice being a good person. Responsible children are taught that being wrong in life is ok and a part of the process.
7. Respect authority: When children have been positively disciplined they respect authority, rules and basic moral codes. Respect is a two-way street in parenting. If you respect your children, they will learn to respect you and authority in general. Children need to look up to you, not across at you.
8. Happy: Children who have been disciplined are happy people. They are pleasant to be around and have an easy time making and sustaining relationships. They tend to be liked by all age groups and are the kids other parents wish their kids could be.
Dr. Sherrie Campbell is the author of "Loving Yourself" and a licensed psychologist with more than 19 years of clinical training and experience. She provides practical tools to help people overcome obstacles to self-love and truly achieve an empowered life. She is a featured regularly on national online media and has a successful practice in Southern California. Receive free insights from Sherrie through her Facebook community. She is a featured expert on a variety of national websites and has a successful practice in Southern California. For more information visit www.sherriecampbellphd.com.
8 Traits of Children Who Have Been Disciplined
1. Self-control: Emotional maturity is the ability to delay gratification. This means your parenting taught them to keep commitments, even when they were no longer new or exciting. Disciplined children can commit to doing what is right even when they don’t feel like it.
2. Empathy: Disciplined children are able to put themselves in the shoes of someone else’s emotional experience, which allows them to develop understanding and genuine care. This enables them to be able to help someone from a place of honesty rather than helping someone to meet their own agenda.
3. Motivated to feel good: Disciplined children have been parented to know they are "good," and because of this they are driven through their own behaviors to maintain this state of internal well-being. Feeling good is their natural state, which they will always strive to regain when their lives bring uncertainty.
4. Responsible: They have been raised to be motivated from within to help around the house, school and in the world at large because they see the value in contributing to the whole rather than just thinking about their own needs.
5. Self-love: Children who are disciplined have an internal sense of their worth. Their confidence is derived from within and not just from performance or outside validation. They have been loved deeply which makes them see themselves as lovable.
6. Responsible: Disciplined children own up to their mistakes and are more likely to make good choices because they desire to feel good. Accountability is not seen as shameful, but rather as an opportunity to practice being a good person. Responsible children are taught that being wrong in life is ok and a part of the process.
7. Respect authority: When children have been positively disciplined they respect authority, rules and basic moral codes. Respect is a two-way street in parenting. If you respect your children, they will learn to respect you and authority in general. Children need to look up to you, not across at you.
8. Happy: Children who have been disciplined are happy people. They are pleasant to be around and have an easy time making and sustaining relationships. They tend to be liked by all age groups and are the kids other parents wish their kids could be.
Dr. Sherrie Campbell is the author of "Loving Yourself" and a licensed psychologist with more than 19 years of clinical training and experience. She provides practical tools to help people overcome obstacles to self-love and truly achieve an empowered life. She is a featured regularly on national online media and has a successful practice in Southern California. Receive free insights from Sherrie through her Facebook community. She is a featured expert on a variety of national websites and has a successful practice in Southern California. For more information visit www.sherriecampbellphd.com.
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