In this months issue of Esquire magazine, Kendall Hamilton lets you in on how to "Renew Your Vows (Without Renewing Your Vows)." Although Hamilton says this is something you should not put your friends through, relating it as "a spectacle," "tacky," and how it "tends to breed resentment," he does suggest other ways a couple can renew their vows without the above said descriptions. One suggestion is "Going Full-Martha," as in Martha Stewart, on an anniversary party. Another point Hamilton makes is that a spouse suggesting a vow-renewal may mean it could be a scapegoat for some larger problem, saying that a sappy ceremony would be nothing more than a Band-Aid anyway. Hamilton suggests that a couple might "propose, instead, a retreat... Be open. Listen. Talk. Have some fun together. And when you get back, keep working on things."

All good advice in our book!

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