The Denver Post interviewed Mira Kirshenbaum, author of "The Weekend Marriage: Abundant Love in a Time-Starved World." The Post asks Kirshenbaum, "Why is it important for couples to get alone time?" Kirshenbaum first makes the distinction between vegging out in front of the TV together without engagement and actually paying attention to the other person. She goes on to say no matter what it is you do, "it's got to be something that makes you feel again the way you felt when you were first together."

Sounds like some pretty good advice. Kirshenbaum takes it one step further, too. Saying that couples should shoot for having at least one real connection a day. Doesn't sound too hard right? Her examples include a real meaningful tight hug or a lingering kiss. Of course, you could take these instances further and go for a walk, play games together, etc.

As your work loads become unbalanced, Kirshenbaum recommends sitting down once a month to discuss what's on the horizon to help keep your time and relationship in balance.

Do you make a concerted effort every day to connect with your spouse?

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