Falling in love is easy… Staying in love takes effort, compassion and forgiveness.

In the beginning of most relationships there’s this honeymoon phase, if you will—where you’re learning about each other, asking lots of questions, everything is new and exciting and the butterflies are flying. This is what researchers would call the dopamine phase. But as time goes on, we enter into the gentler more nurturing stage of oxytocin or partner bonding.

Now I can only speak from my personal experience and what research says. But for me, even though I love my man and he’s my favorite person to be around, after years of being together I find myself not always having something to say on our dates. Maybe you’re in a similar predicament with your significant other.

Here are five ways to get the conversation going and deepen your relationship this fall!

1. Ask New Questions

Asking questions is always a good idea! Try ones that you may not have asked during the "getting to know you stage" but would be fun to know or could deepen your emotional connection with your partner.

Some of our favorites are:

* What gives you hope?

* What makes you feel alive?

* What’s your favorite childhood memory?

Another fun option is to look up a list of questions and save them on your phone to ask on your date or dinner in! Here’s an awesome list of 36 questions from The New York Times.

2. Practice Gratitude

Research is showing that grateful couples are more satisfied in their relationships and feel closer to each other. Moments of gratitude help people recognize the value in their partners—and a valuable partner is worth holding onto, of course. Gratitude has also been known to create a "healthy cycle." Grateful partners tend to practice more caring and attentive behavior, thus their partners tend to feel more appreciated and grateful for them. Then, they in return practice more caring and attentive behaviors as well.

Try sharing one or two things you’re grateful your partner does for you and why, and share one thing about who they are as a person you’re grateful for!

Practicing gratitude out loud to your partner may seem uncomfortable at first, but like most things, it gets easier with practice and the benefits in your relationship are so worth it!

3. Choose a New Activity to Try Together

Not only will trying a new activity give you something new to talk about, but it also can bring some of that dopamine back into the relationship!

You could go rock climbing, take a fun vacation together, go to a sports game, or play a video game together. It just needs to be something you’d both enjoy!

My partner and I recently started playing pickleball with his parents.

4. Dream About the Future Together

Dreaming together about the future is one of the ways in which you reaffirm your commitment to each other and to your life together.

Making plans and setting goals helps you grow together, not apart, because you are both moving toward the same future. And dreams provide the glue that keeps you working together. They give you a purpose to your everyday activities.

5. Explore Your Love Languages

Maybe you already know each other’s "love languages," or maybe you’ve never heard of this before. Either way, it's fun to take the quiz to find out! And then talk about your results.

Although demanding that your partner love you a certain way is never healthy, it can be a very helpful tool to know how the other person tends to express love and feel loved, bringing you into a deeper connection.

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family. In her new book, "Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy," she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative advice. It has been called "the essential guide for relationships." The book is available on ebook. Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13-23 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.