"Love is both creator and destroyer of life. When you learn how to harness the power of love, you come to a place within yourself that acknowledges the infinite wisdom you have, inspires you to achieve astronomical results, and helps you bring about the miracles you desire." ~ Excerpt from "#Loneliness: The Virus of The Modern Age"

In our heart and mind lives indestructible deep longing to love and be loved. It is precisely this desire that throughout our life forces us to seek a partner with whom we can connect mentally with, be emotionally intimate with, find them physically attractive, be financially stable with, and most importantly be able to grow spiritually with and co-create a happy ever after.

The truth is far from this, many single people around the world struggle to find that one special person that ticks all of the boxes in an ever-ending list of qualities and traits created by the wounded ego that has been hurt, rejected, disappointed and lied to so many times. Millions of married people too are struggling in silence from the fear of being judged, criticized, lonely, abandoned, misunderstood, uncared for and feeling of not being good enough.

Love is an indispensable part of our existence that nurtures our inner being and elevates our spirit in supremacy. For many people in the world the fundamental principle of love is based on a deceptive belief that love is having pleasure without experiencing pain. That love is the existence of a one-sided positive emotion and absence of the negative emotion. This way of thinking about love is what sits at the root cause of the many relationship problems that people experience worldwide.

When our values, beliefs and perceptions of the world are supported we start to get infatuated by that person and put them on a pedestal. If on the other hand our values are challenged, we start to argue, defend and disconnect from that person.

If the latter is true for you, this magnetic flow of supreme love energy that is generated in your heart starts to reduce in intensity resulting in less and less personal, social and global coherence. On the other hand, when you truly acknowledge the existence of good and bad, support and challenge in the energy of love, you become the main catalyst for generating and creating love infused relationship.

Unfortunately, this is not a one off process, this is a daily commitment. The more you see the two sides of the coin in every situation in your or your partner’s life, the more you start to synergize into a symbiotic system which acts, feels, and lives as a whole. You no longer feel alone, your intimacy keeps growing, and you start to connect with one another at much deeper level creating even stronger bond, devotion, and joy.

This exquisite mutual homeostasis triggers an infinite number of biochemical reactions that release a plethora of hormones, such as endorphin, dopamine, oxytocin and serotonin mediating the feelings of fulfillment, love and happiness.

Love is a vital force that enriches your relationship with self and your loved one; and just the way you feed your body daily, it is essential for you to do the same with your relationship..

Having helped thousands of clients on their journey to find fulfilling relationships, I know they are inspired into action because so many feel lonely, misunderstood, unheard and unloved.

Once I take them on a self-discovery, self-loving and self-fulfilling journey they start to elevate their being by acknowledging the support that exists in every challenge. It is this integration within yourself and with your partner that you start living in the world of relationship wonders and miracles.

Using the 25 conscious engineering processes of TJS Evolutionary Method, I help my clients balance their perceptions that stop them from seeing the two sides of the same coin, diffuse volatile emotions, and teach them how to use gratitude, compassion, and speaking their truth as ways to infuse their relationship with more love each day.

Here are the five vital steps of this method that I use daily with my clients to create relationship breakthroughs that you may wish to use to connect, enrich, and be more intimate with your loved one:

1. Marriage isn't a straight line. Acknowledge to yourself that marriage is a life time commitment, it will bring ups and downs and you will both face adversity throughout the relationship life.

2. Love the unlovable. Embody this heart opening mantra by embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

3. Continue to prioritize your marriage. Achieve spiritual, mental and emotional balance through constant movement--the stagnant pond breeds malaria and becomes toxic, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find ways to communicate trust, love, common goals, dreams and visions that inspire you both to work towards.

4. Execute a game plan. Results that you want in your relationship will determine your behavior, habits, and daily actions. Write them all down, short, medium and long term--as you do so make sure to question the rules that hold you back from achieving them.

5. Miracles are your creation. Putting the work, going through the pain, and learning new ways of being, thinking, feeling, connecting, and laughing together in time will bring many so called "miracles" whatever they may be for you. You are a miracle of life, honor your infinite abilities and the infinite wisdom of love that resides in you.

If you are reading this and your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, take 100 percent ownership for your part in marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these lessons while there is time.

Lastly, to infuse love in your marriage is to find the form in which love takes place within your relationship or in yourself. Acknowledge to yourself that in any moment in time nothing is missing. What you may think is missing is simply in one or many unrecognized forms that are hidden from your conscious awareness. Your unconscious motives determine the forms. You ultimately won’t gain or lose anything by being single or married. You will only change things in form. It’s up to you know what form this takes in your life.

Learn how to build bridges instead walls in your relationship, consider how to enrich your despaired soul that is incarcerated by the dominant force of loneliness. Remember to make your mission to be the type of spouse your partner can’t help but brag about.

Tony J. Selimi is internationally known as human behavior, cognition and emotional intelligence expert, speaker, entrepreneur and creator of the TJS Evolutionary Method. He is an award-winning and international best-selling author of "A Path to Wisdom: How to Live a Balanced, Healthy and Peaceful Life" and "#Loneliness: The Virus of The Modern Age." He teaches people the tools and the knowledge required to face life’s greatest adversity head on and live life in a specific state of self-mastery that helps them accelerate their human growth, potential and impact.  His clients are businesses, entrepreneurs and leaders who seek his help to manifest their highest vision, to be healthier, wealthier, wiser, spiritual and influential. He is regularly sought out to speak and advice on subjects of conscious and purpose led leadership, mindfulness, entrepreneurship, conscious relationships, global peace, gender and sexual equality, and human behavior. For more information, visit www.tonyselimi.com.