Sex Q&A: How Much Masturbation is Too Much?
A wife is concerned with her husband's masturbation habit and he asks Trina to weigh in with her expert opinion.
BY DR. TRINA READ

Depositphoto Masturbation is a normal activity, but there are warning signs if it's becoming a problem. “ The best thing to do is find out why she is bothered by masturbation, her ideas surrounding how much is permissible.”

Sex and relationship expert, Dr. Trina Read, is ready to answer your questions.

My wife doesn't like it when I masturbate and recently asked me how often I do it. I said daily. She thinks this is too much. Thoughts?

As the old saying goes, about 98% of people masturbate and the rest are just lying.

People vary tremendously in their sexual needs and therefore no amount of masturbating is the wrong amount. That said, for those in a romantic relationship overplay might lead to some complications.

So, how can you tell when enough is enough? Here are some indications:

* Does your health appear to be impacted by the amount you masturbate?
* Are you satisfied with your life—career, relationship, friendships—or are you using masturbation as an escape from things that are bothering you?
* Is your penis sore, chafed, or bruised?
* Do you have any problem orgasming alone or with your partner?
* Do you still have sex with your partner?
* Are you having an amount of sex that you're both content with?

The best thing to do is find out why she is bothered by masturbation, her ideas surrounding how much is permissible.

Great Sex Tip: As long as masturbation is only a part of your life and not instead of your life, you're fine. However, if it is consuming your life or damaging your relationships then you need to consider the reasons behind this.

I’m newly married and want advice on how we can stay happily married?

Here’s my best marriage advice: Be kind to each other. Sound too simple? Theoretically, we should be nicest and kindest to the person we decide to spend the majority of our life with. In reality, too many couples don’t say enough kind things to their significant other; in fact, they often receive the bulk of our criticism.

Acknowledging your spouse every day is the easiest ways to create a good, on going relationship vibe.

Best Ways to Compliment a Guy
Short and concise
Don't ramble on about how nice he is or how great his hair is, or anything else. Keep the compliments short and precise. Be specific.

Men want to be heroes.
Telling him that he’s a great husband and father makes him feel wanted, needed and loved. When we praise him and let him be the hero, he will subconsciously try to live up to your glowing praise.

Compliment His Dog, His Computer, His Desk... just not him directly
Unlike women, men generally are uncomfortable in the spotlight so compliment the things he’s interested in.

Great Relationship Tip: The next time you see your spouse doing something that really irritates you, why don’t you turn that situation around by giving them a compliment first. What would that do to your relationship in the long term?

Dr. Trina Read is the founder of Business of Sex, a marketing company that helps adult product companies and sex educators market and monetize their business. Trina has a degree in business, a doctorate in sexology, and is a leading relationship and sexual health expert and educator; a best selling author, media expert, syndicated blogger, international speaker, magazine columnist, and spokeswoman. Follow her on Twitter.

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