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Shahab and HeelaShahab Zargari and Heela Naqshband, both 27, married in 2001 and had their first child in 2004. Since they started dating in 1999, they have been running a record label company, GC Records. Here's what they’ve learned from it all.
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Shahab Zargari and Heela Naqshband |
SHAHAB
Running a record label with my spouse taught me…
(1) To try and be patient at all times, especially with deadlines and priorities.
(2) To see each other's strengths and focus on those rather than any negative traits. That way, things get done much faster and more efficiently.
(3) To make time for relaxing and quality family time, otherwise it will never happen. Forget cleaning or working on other things. They can all wait.
(4) To make weekly trips to the post office a fun event that is followed by eating out because that’s always more fun than washing dishes after cooking.
(5) To make use of the internet to promote your business and all of your creative family projects, artwork and photos—but don't let it suck up all of your time—see answer 3.
(6) To keep tabs on changes to the Wikipedia article referencing your company and family (beware of vandals!).
(7) That if you can't find time to organize due to your hectic schedules, at least purge unneeded items around the house every once in a while and donate them to the Goodwill!
(8) To not let bad times get you down. Otherwise you won't recognize good times when they arrive.
(9) To dwell on dedication to love of family and music/hobbies only. The rest will fall into place.
(10) That after all the thankless work on a record label, when the press gives your project great reviews, it makes you feel really good. As does working with people you admire – that's always a blast!
HEELA
Running a record label with my spouse taught me…
(1) That nobody knows what their partner’s exact thoughts are and sometimes you have to literally spell things out. Also, when you aren’t together, e-mails and text messages come in handy.
(2) That you must be supportive of each other, no matter what. When situations arise or one of you has some huge aspiration, you have to be there to help and encourage your spouse.
(3) To learn how to complement one another. You are both different people, but determining how you can balance each other out is important. Be the yin to your partner’s yang.
(4) That if you have a child, make sure you also have a reliable babysitter so you can venture out every once in a while (for us, it’s usually to go see a band who's in town). Grandparents rule in this department!
(5) That it's just not as fun going to shows and other events without your partner. Other people are cool with it, but in our case I love spending time together driving up to the venue, watching a great set, hanging out with the bands, and coming home and talking about what a fun time we had.
(6) Family always comes first. Also, your in-laws are not out-laws (or maybe we just got lucky). Spend time with those who love and support you unconditionally.
(7) To take time to just chill out and be lazy. You don’t always have to be doing 10 million things at once. It’s okay to turn off that multi-tasking button.
(8) To find something you are both passionate about—whether it’s a certain cause, a band, type of food—and explore it together. You don’t always have to agree on everything, but sharing this interest this can help strengthen the bond between you.
(9) That double-checking with each other before spending extra cash is usually a pretty good idea.
(10) That all of the time, money and hard work put in to a project are worth it once you have the amazing finished product in your hands. The good reviews help, too!
Running a record label with my spouse taught me…
(1) To try and be patient at all times, especially with deadlines and priorities.
(2) To see each other's strengths and focus on those rather than any negative traits. That way, things get done much faster and more efficiently.
(3) To make time for relaxing and quality family time, otherwise it will never happen. Forget cleaning or working on other things. They can all wait.
(4) To make weekly trips to the post office a fun event that is followed by eating out because that’s always more fun than washing dishes after cooking.
(5) To make use of the internet to promote your business and all of your creative family projects, artwork and photos—but don't let it suck up all of your time—see answer 3.
(6) To keep tabs on changes to the Wikipedia article referencing your company and family (beware of vandals!).
(7) That if you can't find time to organize due to your hectic schedules, at least purge unneeded items around the house every once in a while and donate them to the Goodwill!
(8) To not let bad times get you down. Otherwise you won't recognize good times when they arrive.
(9) To dwell on dedication to love of family and music/hobbies only. The rest will fall into place.
(10) That after all the thankless work on a record label, when the press gives your project great reviews, it makes you feel really good. As does working with people you admire – that's always a blast!
HEELA
Running a record label with my spouse taught me…
(1) That nobody knows what their partner’s exact thoughts are and sometimes you have to literally spell things out. Also, when you aren’t together, e-mails and text messages come in handy.
(2) That you must be supportive of each other, no matter what. When situations arise or one of you has some huge aspiration, you have to be there to help and encourage your spouse.
(3) To learn how to complement one another. You are both different people, but determining how you can balance each other out is important. Be the yin to your partner’s yang.
(4) That if you have a child, make sure you also have a reliable babysitter so you can venture out every once in a while (for us, it’s usually to go see a band who's in town). Grandparents rule in this department!
(5) That it's just not as fun going to shows and other events without your partner. Other people are cool with it, but in our case I love spending time together driving up to the venue, watching a great set, hanging out with the bands, and coming home and talking about what a fun time we had.
(6) Family always comes first. Also, your in-laws are not out-laws (or maybe we just got lucky). Spend time with those who love and support you unconditionally.
(7) To take time to just chill out and be lazy. You don’t always have to be doing 10 million things at once. It’s okay to turn off that multi-tasking button.
(8) To find something you are both passionate about—whether it’s a certain cause, a band, type of food—and explore it together. You don’t always have to agree on everything, but sharing this interest this can help strengthen the bond between you.
(9) That double-checking with each other before spending extra cash is usually a pretty good idea.
(10) That all of the time, money and hard work put in to a project are worth it once you have the amazing finished product in your hands. The good reviews help, too!
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